Eternally happy people get on my nerves (but then again, the perpetually morose ones who spout doom and gloom do too.) We all know someone like this. The sky could be falling and they would see a silver lining. You run into them on Monday morning, all chirpy...annoying.
It does take all types to make the world go ‘round as people say. Diversity, here, like in most things, is a good thing. Most of use fall in between the aforementioned two extremes.
Maybe she’s born with it -Maybelline
Studies have shown that money can buy happiness up to a point, but after that no one is happier than the next middle class/ rich guy. According to Sonja Lyubomirsky, a Professor at the University of California at Riverside, only 10% of happiness is due to external factors, such as amount of money. That leaves 90%. Lyubomirsky says that 50% is due to genetics, while the remaining 40% is under our control...through actions and thoughts.
As for 50% of happiness being genetic, I can see that. Some people have to work at pretending to be happy, because by nature, they are not. I am firmly convinced people are born with certain personalities and dispositions. I have 4 kids, not one of them is alike. They all have distinct personalities. What if there is an actual gene for happiness!?
Controversial research has shown a relationship between happiness and the mutation of a gene that controls serotonin (remember our happiness chemical?) Some studies have found that people with a shorter (mutated) copy of this gene report lower happiness levels. For example, the researchers looked at people in 30 countries and compared how many people had the mutation in each country. They found that Denmark and the Netherlands have the lowest percentage of people with the mutated shorter copy of the gene, and also ranked the “happiest”. Italy, with the highest percentage of people with the mutation, ranked the least happy of the 30 countries.
So basically, 60% of our happiness is out of our control. What about the remaining 40%...things that we supposedly can control: our thoughts and actions. There are many articles, in print and on the web that suggest there are things to do and ways to modify your thoughts, etc. to have a happier life. For example, see "8 Life-Changing Lessons From TED Talks on How to Be Happy."
- Here's some of what the TED speakers advise:
- Don't expect happiness to be one-size-fits-all. ...
- Stop chasing things like success, fame, and money. ...
- Keep challenging yourself. ...
- Be generous. ...
- Be grateful. ...
- Train your mind. ...
- Smile! ...
- Tell the truth.
Also, happier people tend to be healthier and live longer. A review of more than 160 studies of human and animal subjects has found evidence that, with all else being equal, happy people/animals tend to live longer and experience better health than their unhappy peers. (Diener & Chan, 2011) We can’t control our genes and shouldn’t let other stuff that we cannot control bother us. So we should take a more proactive approach to lead to happier lives. Find your bliss.
Sources
Diener, E., & Chan, M. Y. (2011) Happy people live longer: Subjective well-being contributes to health
and longevity. Applied Psychology: Health and
Well-Being. 3(1), 1-43.
Oswald A.J. & Proto E. (2014). National Happiness and Genetic Distance: A Cautious Exploration.
IZA DP No. 8300.